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Author: Ani Pearman, Co-founder EfeX Center, LLC USA Editor: David Thomas M. Ed (TESOL), Learning & Curriculum Trainer @EfeX Center Did you know that gardeners also need to protect their garden? Gardens can thrive and be fruitful if their gardeners protect them against unwanted weeds and pests that can steal the goodness from your plants! What bad or unhealthy ‘weeds’ are in the garden of your thoughts that stop you from thriving? Pull those negative influences out of your sy

Author: Ani Pearman, Co-founder EfeX Center, LLC USA Editor: David Thomas M. Ed (TESOL), Learning & Curriculum Trainer @EfeX Center Are we ready to make our garden? Choose the soil of your hearts. Then look at the issues before planting the seeds. You need healthy soil. Act positively with what you can control. And the issuesyou can't control? Let God handle them. Second, examine the seeds of your thoughts because the seed determines the fruit. What thoughts are you sowing? W

Author: Ani Pearman, Co-founder EfeX Center, LLC USA Editor: David Thomas M. Ed (TESOL), Learning & Curriculum Trainer @EfeX Center Our lives can be likened to a garden. In nature, plants depend on factors they cannot control: rain, soil quality, sunshine, and the right temperatures. Fortunately, as humans, we can create a healthy environment and can make adjustments when we need to. A beautiful, fruitful garden starts with preparing healthy soil and good seeds. The gardener

Author: Ani Pearman, Co-founder EfeX Center, LLC USA Editor: David Thomas M. Ed (TESOL), Learning & Curriculum Trainer @EfeX Center This week is our last week in our series of A Minute of Positivity with EfeX. We've looked at the growth mindset which creates positivity even if it's not a natural tendency. We've learned what to focus our minds on, what to guard our minds from, and how to use with our words positively and effectively. We've discovered how our past stories and e

Author: Ani Pearman, Co-founder EfeX Center, LLC USA Editor: David Thomas M. Ed (TESOL), Learning & Curriculum Trainer @EfeX Center Let’s make the new you now! First, find the narratives that run your life. They’re NOT you. Forgive yourself and others, and move into the present. Second - Create a clear vision of your new you.Make your own story with new possibilities! Third - Control things in your control and let everything else go! You can’t change your past or other people

Author: Ani Pearman, Co-founder EfeX Center, LLC USA Editor: David Thomas M. Ed (TESOL), Learning & Curriculum Trainer @EfeX Center Let’s rewrite Amy’s story together! Imagine that Amy has learned the truth about past and present. She’s forgiven her dad and realizes that negative stories are just her interpretation of the past. Amy now sees her life as part of God’s grand story. The ‘past Amy’ has gone and she is now a new creation! Amy is about to present her proposal to the

Author: Ani Pearman, Co-founder EfeX Center, LLC USA Editor: David Thomas M. Ed (TESOL), Learning & Curriculum Trainer @EfeX Center Can you identify with Amy? Are negative stories in your head running your life? Stop telling yourself negative stories. These stories are not you! They’re just past stories you’ve brought into your present. Let them sit in the past and create a new story of the New You! Amy’s father might have been busy or might not have thought she was important

Author: Ani Pearman, Co-founder EfeX Center, LLC USA Editor: David Thomas M. Ed (TESOL), Learning & Curriculum Trainer @EfeX Center Yesterday we met Amy. Just before Amy started her sales presentation on zoom, her thoughts raced to her past. When Amy was a child, she felt that her father often praised her sister, but ignored her. All her life she tried to gain people’s approval by sounding important. But the harder she tried, the more unconvincing she sounded. With each failu

Author: Ani Pearman, Co-founder EfeX Center, LLC USA Editor: David Thomas M. Ed (TESOL), Learning & Curriculum Trainer @EfeX Center Every day this week we’re going to study psychology with stories about a lady named Amy, so watch every day! Amy works in sales and has been guarding against negative words. Sheis ready to try positivity! Amy is about to present a new sales concept, but suddenly an inner voice whispers, “Your idea won’t be heard. You’re not important.” Our inner

Author: Ani Pearman, Co-founder EfeX Center, LLC USA Editor: David Thomas M. Ed (TESOL), Learning & Curriculum Trainer @EfeX Center Let’s create a new speech habit! This weekend, decide to use your language wisely, then pay attention to the positivity or negativity of yourwords. Ask someone to remind youif you ‘accidently’ use negative words.In construction, this would be called reverse engineering, because from the words you are producing, you can think about the feelings th

Author: Ani Pearman, Co-founder EfeX Center, LLC USA Editor: David Thomas M. Ed (TESOL), Learning & Curriculum Trainer @EfeX Center Nick was born without arms and legs. Although devastated, his parents realized this was God’s will and raised Nick as a normal boy. Nick gradually learned to do things independently! But when he started school, bullies said he was stupid and pathetic. These negative words affected Nick and he considered suicide. However, Nick learned that he was

Author: Ani Pearman, Co-founder EfeX Center, LLC USA Editor: David Thomas M. Ed (TESOL), Learning & Curriculum Trainer @EfeX Center Whether you speak life or death depends on what is filling your heart! If your heart is critical, your tongue will produce critical words. A self-righteous heart speaks judgmental words. A bitter heart speaks poisonous words. An ungrateful heart likes to complain. But when we are loving, our words are gracious. If our hearts want to reconcile, ou

Author: Ani Pearman, Co-founder EfeX Center, LLC USA Editor: David Thomas M. Ed (TESOL), Learning & Curriculum Trainer @EfeX Center Do you know what happens in your brain after saying words repeatedly? Research from the University of California found that a weak message repeated is believed more than a strong message heard only once. Marketing relies on this principle. Your brain matches each repetition to previous patterns and confirms your ideas to build beliefs. The more y

Author: Ani Pearman, Co-founder EfeX Center, LLC USA Editor: David Thomas M. Ed (TESOL), Learning & Curriculum Trainer @EfeX Center Hi! I’m Hannah. Have you ever heard yourself saying negative words? “I’m so fat” “My daughter is so lazy.” “My son is careless.” “This job is too hard!” “Our business is hopeless.” “Indonesia will never change.” Negative statements like these actually sabotage success! You are speaking against the very things you want to happen and shutting down

Author: Ani Pearman, Co-founder EfeX Center, LLC USA Editor: David Thomas M. Ed (TESOL), Learning & Curriculum Trainer @EfeX Center We are now more aware of negative and positive thoughts, and events and responses, so we can effectively practice our formula Event + Response = 0utcome. Over this next week, write a reflection at the end of each day: Write about what triggered a strong reaction -that’s the event. What emotions rose up? (remember, feelings represent your values)

Author: Ani Pearman, Co-founder EfeX Center, LLC USA Editor: David Thomas M. Ed (TESOL), Learning & Curriculum Trainer @EfeX Center Hi! I’m Holly, and today is story time! A man sat down to write about his life after a successful career. But he felt very sad. His recovery from heart surgery had been slow. He felt lost after retiring and still grieved for his dead father. Finally, a car accident caused their son to fail university. He concluded, “It’s been a terrible year!” Hi

Author: Ani Pearman, Co-founder EfeX Center, LLC USA Editor: David Thomas M. Ed (TESOL), Learning & Curriculum Trainer @EfeX Center Have you ever forgotten to take wet garbage outside? It smells gross! Filling your mind with negative thoughts is just like keeping garbage in your mind. After a while, you’ll also PRODUCE garbage- in the form of negative attitudes, bad words and regrettable behavior, including self-pity, anger, bitterness, sinful thoughts, envy, worries, fears a

Author: Ani Pearman, Co-founder EfeX Center, LLC USA Editor: David Thomas M. Ed (TESOL), Learning & Curriculum Trainer @EfeX Center Hi! I’m Holly. There’s a famous quote that says: “We ARE what we think.” But how do our thoughts become us? Put simply, our thoughts affect how we feel AND behave. If someone thinks like a failure, they will act like a failure. If they fail at something, they’ll start believing they are a failure. A pattern of negativity forms and you look for ev

Author: Ani Pearman, Co-founder EfeX Center, LLC USA Editor: David Thomas M. Ed (TESOL), Learning & Curriculum Trainer @EfeX Center We hear a lot about attitude, but what is it? Our attitude is the way we see and RESPOND to ourselves, to people, and to every situation in life. But importantly, we CHOOSE our attitude and response. We are in control. We can lose control and scream or blame others, or we can choose to guard our response and respond calmly. We can understand this

Author: Ani Pearman, Co-founder EfeX Center, LLC USA Editor: David Thomas M. Ed (TESOL), Learning & Curriculum Trainer @EfeX Center We’ve been telling you about the growth mindset developed by Professor Carol Dwek in 2006. A growth mindset states that learning mistakes strengthen our thinking. We can increase our learning capacity to adapt better and find solutions during these difficult times. Even if you tend to be cautious or pessimistic, like the glass half-empty attitude